Love Always - Coach J
They can align or alienate, connect or separate, hold power or take power. Words are so intentional the worst thing we can do throw them around carelessly. They may align with places you have never ventured as they are simply a thought put to action. Put words to your thoughts to put power behind them. Consider the clarity of your language choice to gain the impact you are looking for. When you have a break down in communication look at the words you chose and pick up from there. You have the power of heaven and earth in your tongue - ask accordingly.
Love Always - Coach J
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Imagine your social life if all of your closest friends are incredible, gourmet chefs that enjoy sharing their latest inspired creations with you. What do you think those gatherings would look, taste and smell like? Do you think by nature you'd pick up a few tips and tricks and as a result become a better chef to some degree? What if your circle consisted of athletes and physical trainers? What do you think your body and health would look like? What if you spent quality time with entrepreneurs and savvy investors? Take a close look at the people you give your time to. Once you do that consider the contribution you make to the group. If you chose you can and will grow into what ever you want to be. You can help direct your growth and aid your results by the circle of influence you keep. Love Always - Coach J No matter what a word means to you, when you use it and another person has an alternate understanding of that word there is a potential for disconnect. Using more words to bridge the gap is one way to gain understanding. It is up to each of you how you will move forward past the emotion the word may have risen. No matter what transpires you cannot ever know how someone will receive the words you express. Take and use care, and be brave enough to have the follow up conversations to gain deeper understanding. Love Always - Coach J For me a friend is someone I can relate with on some level. I enjoy their company and our common ground gives us mutual respect even if we do not align on every level. Friends are a blessing and help us maintain our balance in life. A partner is someone that not only aligns with you but is also willing to invest time, money, or emotions in your cause and you in theirs. Some friends are partners, and some are not. The importance of partners strengthens your foundation and helps propel you to your goals and dreams. Friends cheer you one, partners coach and correct as well as cheer. They jump in when you are fatigued or redirect when you are lost, a friend may just listen to you and be there for you... Keep partners as well as friends. Ask yourself - who are a friend to and who are you a partner with? Look around and determine which is which and appreciate both for what they bring to the table. Love Always - Coach J If a smaller aircraft can get you where you need to be you should take it. If a friend offers you a ride in their old vehicle accept it. If a cab will do over the car service, just get it done. Be effective and timely. Enjoy the journey not the vehicle. In time your vehicles will rise to meet you at the level you are. But at all times, simply enjoy the operation that serves you best. Love Always - Coach J Effort is something we must exert to have any return in life. We must push and grow. There is a difference between effort and struggle. To display effort is to give your best, try your hardest and check in on the results and course correct as needed. Struggle however is more of a head down, push through and just keep going without looking at your progress or outcome type of movement. To struggle is to take on the emotional burden of your results. To be come attached to the pain of failure. In place of that I suggest you simply look at the results as only that - results. You did the best you could with what you knew to that point. The next step is to evaluate and see what you can do differently to achieve a new result. Keep giving your best effort but stop struggling in misery. Let me know your thoughts on these words and how you made the switch from struggling to applying powerful effort. Love Always - Coach J When you set an expectation in your head - or an appointment and it does not happen as you wished there may be a feeling of loss. It is incredible because you are missing something that was never promised, simply an expectation in your head. It is even more difficult when it is something natural such as childbirth and for what ever reason it takes an unexpected course. You miss the appointment you had set. You must come to terms in the present moment and release the expectations of the future you have been so emotionally tied to. Disappointment is the appropriate word but in times like these it doesn't capture the emotion of the perceived loss. Trust in all things to be as they should. Live life to its fullest each day and know you played your hand to the fullest so you can rest easy each night. Love Always - Coach J When we reach a peak in our performance or understanding there is no feeling like it. When we execute below that standard going forward we know we have missed the mark and tend to grade ourselves as less than the desired mark. In the moment we are delivering not only what the receiver needs but on some level what we need as well. Without those moments of less than stellar performance we may never refine ourselves further. Without the fall there is no victory to overcome. The beauty in the win is to overcome the struggle. Even if it is unnoticed by others we build our reserve by acknowledging and getting back after it. Being human and being able to err is one of the best gifts we have ever been given if we use it to grow. Love Always - Coach J It is interesting how many sales "professionals" will make a presentation of what they have to offer and not close the presentation by asking for the business. How many times do we do this in life in general? We talk about things we want or would like to people that could help us achieve our goal but we never directly ask for their assistance. We tell jokes to the guy or girl we like but we never ask for a date. We imply what we'd like to do this weekend to our significant other but we never make a firm stance and ask for their feedback. Fear of an answer outside of what we want can lead to paralysis. What I'll offer to this point is you don't have the additional help, date, or weekend plan as it is. You are not actually losing anything. You are truly losing by failing to ask for what you want, because you never know what they can do to assist or they may even have a referral to someone else that can assist that you never even considered. Ask for what you want in life, ask for the business and you will find success turning in your favor. Love Always - Coach J |
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