pain

Recently I was expressing my pain to a loved one.  My pain is from an not having a good connection with them and my desire to be more involved in their life.  Not to have control or input but simply to have a connection and be someone they keep in touch with - we had not spoken in quite a while.  I noticed the their tone changed from defensiveness to understanding when I was expressing my perception and I said "This is not judgment of you or your actions, I am simply expressing my pain".  From my reality this is all that I was expressing - my pain, I was not judging their action or lack of action, I was truly expressing the pain I felt from not being connected.  I want no control, no input, simply to be connected with and made aware of their safety and well being.  Pain comes in many ways and we express it in many ways.  Make sure when there comes a time to share your pain that you bring it from that place and not a place of anger or judgment.  I hope this serves you well as times of difficulty are few and far between but amplify our emotions making it hard to be objective. 

Love Always - Coach J

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