Love Always - Coach J
When you set an expectation in your head - or an appointment and it does not happen as you wished there may be a feeling of loss. It is incredible because you are missing something that was never promised, simply an expectation in your head. It is even more difficult when it is something natural such as childbirth and for what ever reason it takes an unexpected course. You miss the appointment you had set. You must come to terms in the present moment and release the expectations of the future you have been so emotionally tied to. Disappointment is the appropriate word but in times like these it doesn't capture the emotion of the perceived loss. Trust in all things to be as they should. Live life to its fullest each day and know you played your hand to the fullest so you can rest easy each night.
Love Always - Coach J
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I have always had a natural instinct to make my circle or network wide and various. I welcome many different walks of life, thought beliefs and I open myself to learning a little something from each of them. The long term return of this has been I have many resources now when I have a question or thought that I just can't seem to wrap my head around. Even when I reach out to someone and they cannot offer direct advice just hearing their perspective at times can lead me in the right direction by associating their thoughts with the current situation I am facing. Look to others for information, then make the educated decision yourself. Love Always - Coach J Every morning I have an routine to bring in the day with the most positive energy and insights to make the most of my day. When the people that comprise my inner circle are all having a low energy morning I find myself being drawn into that field and the power feels low. I reach for sources of energy and actually have to take the same advice I give my children. When you are in that space what is one thing (toy, book, song) that makes you feel good? Start there to increase your energy. Find a positive marker and build from there. I have to do it myself from time to time. Stay away from the victim mentality and control what you can. Love Always - Coach J What a marvelous day of exhausting relaxation! We started early to go to a neighborhood event with a bounce house, kids games, caulk art, snacks, beverages, and great company. We came home took a quick nap then back out to the store, then park for playground run around, took a nice stroll over to the reservoir. Headed home at dusk to tune into boxing that ended swiftly (round three) and mercifully to end the day. I was hugging my pillow with the day of non stop relaxation and participation behind me. Love Always - Coach J Together Everyone Achieves More - the power of sharing a vision and having another person or group support your mission increases the return squared. one plus one is greater than two. Express your ideas clearly so others understand where you are headed and how they can assist. Look for how you can assist others as well. Love Always - Coach J When you are disconnected from something you are not aware of its current state. If you are disconnected you can make assumptions about its progress but you cannot be sure. When you are disconnected from a person it can appear that you may not care for their current or future state, when simply you have no current information to go on. When you attempt to connect and cannot connect what is next? My perspective is to remain consistent and available. If you are steady and consistent, remain available, and let your intentions be known of having a desire to connect there is not much more you can do. This way you know you have done everything you can and when the other party wants to connect, they can see you are in the same place and welcome the connection. Too many times a lack of connection can be perceived as a lack of caring. A break in an electrical wire will cause the current to stop at a the break but electricity is still electricity and love is still love, just sometimes it is disconnected. If you have a connection you want to want to repair simply do your part and let the rest happen. Love Always - Coach J I love how young children are so direct. They tell you what they want when they want. They tell you if they like something or do not. They tell you if they are happy or if they don't like the shirt you are wearing. It is not about social politeness or emotional sensitivity because their intent is pure. They are simply giving direct feedback to the things you ask of them. Our expectation of a certain reply or some sort of confirmation allows us to be in awe of their directness or offended, but the reality is it is our choice to be offended or awed, this is simply their opinion. To be so in tune and to operate from a place of honesty and non filtered directness is a form of young maturity and has me questioning this morning how is really more mature? The adult or the child? Let me know what you think in the comment section. Love Always - Coach J I wrote a few days back about toddlers hugging their favorite stuffed animals. Today as I dropped off my little one at day care there was a younger girl that had her soft blanket from home she would not let go of as she walked around the center. Now that you are older what is your thing of comfort? I think of my teenagers and immediately think it is their phone. They cling to that for sure. For me - is it my computer? Books? I am not sure and will take some objective feedback on that for clarity. What I do know is we should cling to God, to seek knowledge, gain understanding and apply wisdom. We should cling to spending time and attention with our loved ones. Cling to being gentle and firm at the same time. I ask that we enjoy the external pleasures but squeeze and release them. And definitely do not cling to them. Love Always - Coach J Learning. One of the wisest (and most successful) businessmen I know is also one of the most open to new ideas and perspectives. He is always willing to listen and adapt new strategies or thoughts. He is also willing to draw a hard line when he sees someone heading in a direction that he knows will result in a loss. He is not afraid to speak up or passive by any means, however I have been struck by his open nature. He is like a child in the enthusiasm he brings to learning new things or at least hearing them out each day. No matter his success he's never stopped learning. What a lesson in action. I am grateful I have witnessed it because I have heard this advice before but seeing it in action, having a frame of reference to model is beyond explanation for my ability to accept the lesson. Love Always - Coach J When creating a meal their is a recipe you should follow if you want a desired outcome. Part of that is using the proper ingredients. Substituting salt for sugar will give you an extremely different outcome. What is the meal you are preparing? Is it a strong family, a healthy financial future, a closer relationship with your friends? The ingredients/ things you put into your time will alter the outcome. Do you need to add a little more of an unconditional listening ear? Maybe a steady dose of predetermined money set aside for future saving? Proactively planning time for friend? The slightest ingredient will shape the final outcome. Take a look at the outcome you desire and see if you are adding the correct ingredients and measurements of each to prepare for the cooking time. If the ingredients are not correct they will never withstand the heat of life that it takes to cook your meal. Take a close look at what your plan is, take inventory of the ingredients, add the appropriate measurements, be patient during the cook time and earn the meal that you are cooking. No fast food brings any real nutritional value. Love Always - Coach J |
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