"Until a man knows he's a man he will forever be trying to prove he is one, while at the same time shrinking from anything that might reveal he is not." - John Eldredge
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When is the last time you and your loved one worked on a puzzle together? Maybe your Husband, Wife, Child, Grandchild, or Parent took the time to work through a jigsaw puzzle with you and you never forgot that. Who was the one that wanted to do all the outside pieces first? Who simply looked to match colors? Who set up the picture on the box and worked from clues on each piece to start laying out the general area that piece might end up in? There are so many methods to attack a puzzle and so many different learning and problem solving styles that it is amazing to watch your teammates thoughts and organization when working through placing the pieces where they belong. To create a perfect picture we need to work together, honor the differencing styles and most of all enjoy the ride to completion. The feeling of accomplishment when the last piece is placed is exhilarating and the journey is what makes it all worth it. No matter the pieces your life is in there is a clear picture of the intent and purpose. Work with your loved ones to put it together. Most importantly enjoy your time together. Love Always - Coach J We all have acquaintances, associates, buddies, pals, and friends. How many of you have a brother (or sister) friend? One that you have known for sometime and have been through trials with? Even more so that know your shortcomings and still chose to Love and invest in you. Who are these angels in your life? Where did they come from? What have you done to receive such a blessing? Appreciate them by being there for them, and send them a quick "I love you" message today. Don't hold back the feeling you have for another day - express your gratitude today with no expectation of return. Be free and open to love fully and completely everyday through expression, appreciation and no attachment to outcome. Let me know in the comment section what a brother or sister friend looks like to you. Love Always - Coach J Yesterday I addressed the topic of Father being the Source. You are like that from which you came. An apple comes from an apple tree. Certain genetic factors and traits will come from your physical father. Other traits will come from your eternal source, the source of all life. To be able to resource the original love, compassion, wisdom and understanding is a blessing to say the least. Look into your life and see where you can be a resource for someone else. You don't need to have all the answers, check in with your source and channel them. It is a complement to your connection to the source to be considered resourceful. Love Always - Coach J Take a moment and think about how it feels when someone genuinely takes an interest in a project you are working on, your health or your family. It is a feeling of warmth mixed with excitement. We love to share information about things we are passionate about. When we share a goal we are chasing we feel stronger and more at peace with that goal when we can say it out loud and have another person really get behind us on it. Our language calls this taking interest in someone. Interest means we are curious or want to learn more about a topic or person. Anytime we project this type of energy we are feeding the other person. It also means a regular payout on an investment or loan. You have invested in this person and they will keep you updated regularly to keep the energy level maintained - this is interest. It is a self filling energy source. With this in mind when is the last time you really took interest in something someone you love is doing? Find that thing that excites them and ask them to tell you all about it and where they are going with it. Offer to be a resource or reference even if it is no more than just a work of encouragement from time to time. As you are taking interest in others, take note of those that take interest in you. Show them gratitude and return interest to there investment in you. Love Always - Coach J When you walk away from something consistent do not feel sorry for yourself when it does not come looking for you. Take this for example, if you have a job that pays well and is a stable place to work and you leave for another employer that is unstable you cannot expect your former employer to keep looking after you and check in on you. For all they know you are quite content where you are. You have to seek out the consistent positive forces in your life an align with them. When you stray you will see less of the benefit of that consistency. What has changed is you. Not the source. Do not feel sorry for yourself when others are not actively seeking you to check on you. If they are good people and consistent in their execution and beliefs than you can choose to align with them. It is your choice what you allow time for in your life and what you do not. The more you are consistent the more you will find strength in your every move. Love Always - Coach J I have written before that the current marketing of television is to position children at the head of the household. To be the voice of reason and to have clear judgment and understanding. Parents are painted as silly or dimwitted while the child is sarcastic or victimized and has to create their own solutions. This is pretty common in the cartoon and teenage sitcoms. I thought of this while reading an article yesterday from Dr. Mercola's website - here is an excerpt: "Not only do these children spend $40 billion a year on snacks, toys, and electronics, using money given to them by their parents or family members, they also exert a powerful influence on their parents' spending. As noted in the documentary film Consuming Kids, children under 12 influence adult spending worth a staggering $700 billion a year, which equates to the combined economy of 115 of the world's poorest countries." In an attempt to gain market position we are severely damaging our culture and the natural order of support and guidance. We are becoming consumers more than we are providers of knowledge, information and guidance. As a parent or even a leader in your community it is time to invest in our youth, hear their concerns, take true interest in supporting their development and show them the wisdom that comes with age supporting the innovation and energy of youth. Love Always - Coach J This morning I am reflecting on the most simple yet deepest of lessons. We are born into a Kingdom as citizens. Our Kingdom is that of wisdom, Love, and limitless abundance. Everything that we are surrounded by is made for us to command. Yet our focus can shift or slip at times to be commanded by our surroundings. Regain your royal position and make direction of your surroundings. The world truly is yours. Love Always - Coach J Last night during the most intense thunder and lightening storm we have had of the spring I have to admit I had one of the deepest most relaxing slumbers I have had in some time. The bedroom window was cracked so I could hear the downpour. At some point in the night there was a crack of thunder that shook the house and I expected the children to wake a little disturbed. I heard no stirring and fell back to sleep quickly. In the midst of this intense event I was able to rest. It is amazing that having a sound home (family, values, knowledge of self and God) as well as house (physical support) can get you through all kinds of storms. Love Always - Coach J Experiencing a new joy through someone you love is so amazing. Watching them learn something new or just watching them be fulfilled and in a joyous place just charges me up. Watching your son catch his first fish, your smallest child build a puzzle on their own, you older children become amazing young adults, and dancing the night away with your wife like you've just met and she has your heart in the palm of her hand all over again feels so good. If you haven't had a first time with the ones you love in a while do so tonight. Buy a something or prepare a new dish for dinner. Lay out a blanket in the floor and have dinner like a picnic with no TV on. Anything to have a first time experience each day with the ones you love. Love Always - Coach J |
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