Love Always - Coach J
Let the leaves and temperatures fall. It is a crisp season preparing us for hibernation and repair. Growth below the surface. The Sunrise I have witnessed the past week has been a silky mixture of colors so definitive and at the same time clearly defined. There is a velvety texture to the sight. In one word - Awesome.
Love Always - Coach J
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Are you looking for Love or are you giving Love? Is Love an emotion or an action? When you look at a sunrise or set, the miracle of child birth or the depth of your wifes eyes do you feel Love in action? You should feel it because it is transmitted to you. However do not waste your time seeking it - make it and you will be surrounded by it. If you have heard God is Love you know it is through action that you find His Love, then you can bask in the feeling. “Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her.” - Stephen R. Covey Love Always - Coach J The truth, transparency, and precision of toddlers. My 2 year old has seen the Avengers movie, Iron Man, Cpt. America and the fun cartoons that are related to those characters. The other day he was running and jumping and smashing things as he does from time to time and I glanced over and exclaimed "Baby Hulk"! He turned to me matter of fact and clearly stated "I no Hulk, I Iron Man!" Then went back to running, jumping and smashing. He wasn't upset that I called him Hulk, he simply clarified and moved on. How many times do we judge or label others based on their actions? On the other hand how many of us justify what we are doing with long explanations? There was no concern on how I perceived him as Hulk. He didn't have a deep moment of reflection on his being, purpose and actions that someone would mistake his Iron Man behavour for the Hulk. He didn't have to explain the finer points of how he was truly Iron Man and not Hulk. He was confident, definate, and secure in himself enough to enjoy the moment as well as let me know who he is, not who he thinks he is, or how he would like to be. Take this confidence and joy with you everyday. Be your own Iron Man even if another may mistake you for the Hulk. Love Always - Coach J Our attitude affects those around us. We can influence others by the mood we are in whether we want to admit it or not. If we regard ourselves as leaders or not we do affect the world. As proof read on. Yesterday I observed a presentation that asked us to perform this exercise. Write down the number of people you come in contact with on a daily average at your work place. Then write down the number of people they come in contact with daily. Now write how many days a week you are at the workplace. Last write how may weeks in a year you are interacting at the workplace. You may work with five people (line 1), who see five other people a day (line 2), five days a week (line 3) 48 weeks a year (line 4). With this very conservative math my actions on one day can effect 6000 people in that year. One bad day can ripple through to 6000 people... We've looked at this through a very small workplace window. Look at this and include your family interactions, grocery store trips, neighbors, and phone calls. How many people do you interact with on some level on your commute to the workplace? In those few seconds of experience with you are you improving their day or making it more difficult. I as you to consider the impact of the ripples you generate as they compound into tidal waves as they expand. Will you overwhelm the world with joy or pain? It starts with the ripple. Thanks to Keith Mercurio for his latest presentation of "What's your And?" I hope to have the full length version of this video posted for you to experience the impact of this lesson in the future. Love Always - Coach J The ability to stretch yourself and still return to your orginal state without loosing form. This can be great when you are looking for growth and new opportunities. Go beyond what your current set of standards are to gain new experience. This can also be detrimental when it is more aligned with stubborness. "blessed are the flexible for they shall neve be bent out of shape" - Coach Mo. Stretch yourself to grow, but always know who you are and where you are coming from and check yourself to see if your intent is true. Love Always - Coach J Covey, Canfield, Maxwell and many other wise coaches offer this advice - there is a space between what happens to you and how you respond. Take a moment in that time, and check your emotions and feel them, hear them and think about how your best you can respond in any situation. From pure bliss to furious rage the choice is yours in that space. Love Always - Coach J It is not for us to judge or label. We will be gentle with others we are not alined with. However it is suggested that you are careful to not encourage, engage in or enable actions, attitudes, or situations that are opposite of that which you represent. Be gentle, but do not enable and in turn hinder anothers growth. Love Always - Coach J |
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