Love Always - Coach J
I have witnessed a young man work hard at his academics and at his sport. In high school he was an average performer that always had to apply himself to maintain around a 3.0 grade average. He joined cross country in his junior year and fell in love with it but was not a top performer in that area. He trained hard and got better and was very respectable. His dream was to attend a university and run on their cross country team. He got accepted by the school and pushed himself to unbelievable degrees and made the team after being denied the first year. A side result of his training discipline is he became very focused in school and now maintains a 3.4 grade average at a top university. Also after making the cross country team he joined a triathlon for sport and found this is where his heart really is. His first major tri he placed second! He had a coach reach out to him to help him train, he has a major sponsor. He is breaking rookie records and is more fulfilled than he has ever been. He put the work in. Even when you are not completely sure what the work is going towards or you don't feel completely fulfilled any work you do, any strength you build is yours for future use. I raise my glass high to know this young man and I know that anything he does in life will be successful. I knew that from his first training sessions that junior year in high school when I had the pleasure of working with him because he's had the heart of a lion from the beginning. The best part of this story for me is now he knows it is only going to get better - and he earned it all himself.
Love Always - Coach J
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Imagine your social life if all of your closest friends are incredible, gourmet chefs that enjoy sharing their latest inspired creations with you. What do you think those gatherings would look, taste and smell like? Do you think by nature you'd pick up a few tips and tricks and as a result become a better chef to some degree? What if your circle consisted of athletes and physical trainers? What do you think your body and health would look like? What if you spent quality time with entrepreneurs and savvy investors? Take a close look at the people you give your time to. Once you do that consider the contribution you make to the group. If you chose you can and will grow into what ever you want to be. You can help direct your growth and aid your results by the circle of influence you keep. Love Always - Coach J If you are looking to be of assistance to someone, or a specific group make sure you have the knowledge and foundation to be able to give without losing yourself. Many times I witness businesses or charities that offer to help too many people or are unfocused in who they will or can help and simply go out of business for not running their operation like a business. You can never be of worth to another until you have established yourself. This can be financially, or emotionally, or intellectually. Trying to extract money from the very people that need your assistance is not a strong business practice. Think about who can support your cause and recognize them as your partners. Those in need of support will be served to the extent you can grow your partner network. There is no such thing as a broke philanthropist. Love Always - Coach J Effort is something we must exert to have any return in life. We must push and grow. There is a difference between effort and struggle. To display effort is to give your best, try your hardest and check in on the results and course correct as needed. Struggle however is more of a head down, push through and just keep going without looking at your progress or outcome type of movement. To struggle is to take on the emotional burden of your results. To be come attached to the pain of failure. In place of that I suggest you simply look at the results as only that - results. You did the best you could with what you knew to that point. The next step is to evaluate and see what you can do differently to achieve a new result. Keep giving your best effort but stop struggling in misery. Let me know your thoughts on these words and how you made the switch from struggling to applying powerful effort. Love Always - Coach J It is interesting how many sales "professionals" will make a presentation of what they have to offer and not close the presentation by asking for the business. How many times do we do this in life in general? We talk about things we want or would like to people that could help us achieve our goal but we never directly ask for their assistance. We tell jokes to the guy or girl we like but we never ask for a date. We imply what we'd like to do this weekend to our significant other but we never make a firm stance and ask for their feedback. Fear of an answer outside of what we want can lead to paralysis. What I'll offer to this point is you don't have the additional help, date, or weekend plan as it is. You are not actually losing anything. You are truly losing by failing to ask for what you want, because you never know what they can do to assist or they may even have a referral to someone else that can assist that you never even considered. Ask for what you want in life, ask for the business and you will find success turning in your favor. Love Always - Coach J Have you ever seen something so bad or ugly it made you realize how good you really have it? I can admit I have had experiences where I wish I had been wiser and not put myself in a situation that made me think "What am I doing here? I don't need to be in this environment!" In those moments I was fortunate enough to have a measurement of good that I could reference as the place I'd rather be. If you are in a dark place and do not have a frame of reference of a better place, I tell you it exists, simply look for small clues first. And for those of you in a good place now, don't wait to be tested or witness something less than beautiful to fully grasp and appreciate the good that is in your life now. The good will only multiply. If you have a little, amplify it, if you have a lot amplify it. Focus on the good, and minimize the bad and the ugly. Love Always - Coach J I have always had a natural instinct to make my circle or network wide and various. I welcome many different walks of life, thought beliefs and I open myself to learning a little something from each of them. The long term return of this has been I have many resources now when I have a question or thought that I just can't seem to wrap my head around. Even when I reach out to someone and they cannot offer direct advice just hearing their perspective at times can lead me in the right direction by associating their thoughts with the current situation I am facing. Look to others for information, then make the educated decision yourself. Love Always - Coach J Fear of something brings it to fruition. Fear makes it happen. How sets the fear? You! Your continued thoughts or apprehensions on what you do not want to happen are feeding the fear into a reality. Fear passes through all of us, simply let it pass. Don't park there. Park where you want to stay. Park in the view that you want to grow in. Let fear pass, don't trap yourself with your own fears. Live fearless, which means taking action in the face of fear. Action kills fear every time. Love Always - Coach J Every morning I have an routine to bring in the day with the most positive energy and insights to make the most of my day. When the people that comprise my inner circle are all having a low energy morning I find myself being drawn into that field and the power feels low. I reach for sources of energy and actually have to take the same advice I give my children. When you are in that space what is one thing (toy, book, song) that makes you feel good? Start there to increase your energy. Find a positive marker and build from there. I have to do it myself from time to time. Stay away from the victim mentality and control what you can. Love Always - Coach J Life is the stage. Are you the viewer or on the stage? If you are on the stage are you the central character or in the background. Life is one of the most interesting stages because you can be the star as well as the observer at the same time. The issue comes into play when you get stuck in the observer role. Watching, and waiting to see what will happen next puts you in a victim role. Taking action and setting the stage, changing the scenery, choosing the script, all of these things are in your control, so act as if. Be the star you are. Love Always - Coach J |
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