Love Always - Coach J
What a marvelous day of exhausting relaxation! We started early to go to a neighborhood event with a bounce house, kids games, caulk art, snacks, beverages, and great company. We came home took a quick nap then back out to the store, then park for playground run around, took a nice stroll over to the reservoir. Headed home at dusk to tune into boxing that ended swiftly (round three) and mercifully to end the day. I was hugging my pillow with the day of non stop relaxation and participation behind me.
Love Always - Coach J
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A respectful, and thoughtful opinion can help us gain deeper understanding of our position. When someone is in opposition to us and we voice our perspective one of two things happen, one - we have a expressed our belief out loud and given it more power and meaning to us, two - we see where our thinking may have blind spots and we can consider the new information received. A respectful, and thoughtful opinion is never a negative thing. Look past your feelings of needing to be "right" and recognize the gift of feedback and interaction. Love Always - Coach J When you are disconnected from something you are not aware of its current state. If you are disconnected you can make assumptions about its progress but you cannot be sure. When you are disconnected from a person it can appear that you may not care for their current or future state, when simply you have no current information to go on. When you attempt to connect and cannot connect what is next? My perspective is to remain consistent and available. If you are steady and consistent, remain available, and let your intentions be known of having a desire to connect there is not much more you can do. This way you know you have done everything you can and when the other party wants to connect, they can see you are in the same place and welcome the connection. Too many times a lack of connection can be perceived as a lack of caring. A break in an electrical wire will cause the current to stop at a the break but electricity is still electricity and love is still love, just sometimes it is disconnected. If you have a connection you want to want to repair simply do your part and let the rest happen. Love Always - Coach J Many times I have used the phrase "transformation" when speaking to personal development but a recent insight has me considering the definition I will choose to represent. The transform is to change a shape from what it was to something new - at least that is the definition on a cellular level. Commonly it is used to state a dramatic change. I will use the change to something new definition to express my counter of discovery as being preferable. Of the things I have learned that have enlightened me most I had to consider that the lessons returned me to my essence - or Dis Covered (uncovered) something that was already within. I simply became aware of it and empowered it. I may have acted, or shown a dramatic change that others can casually call transformation, but the reality for me was I discovered information that was always present and chose to act on it. Consider this, but no matter what we call it, keep growing and aligning with Love. Love Always - Coach J It is possible to give and still increase, as is it is possible to withhold too much an be in poverty. What are you holding back that you can give? Time, Money, Love, Attention? You get what you give. Are you giving happiness or pain? Don't hold back the gift you were given to share. Love Always - Coach J It can be tough enough to wake from a slumber to jump out of your bed with enthusiasm but how do you deal with waking to an unexpected event? For example you wake up to your power being out, or a water leak in the house, maybe you or one of your loved ones is ill. So first you wake up and say "This is a great day that I will own!" Then you leave the bed half sleep still convincing yourself that it will be an amazing day and you step into the water from the leak and BAM! your mood changes instantly. When any unexpected even hits I'll ask you to consider this method. Review your roles in life and react from that position. By roles I mean, father, husband, brother, neighbor, coworker - whatever. and go from a victim to a leader within the role you play in relation to the event. You'll find courage to act and a foundation to act from. No longer the selfish person upset by the change and fretting about how this will deter the rest of your day - no - now in this moment you are superhero, husband, son , father, whatever and the rest will fall into place. Nothing better than being able to rise and shine - well maybe except to be aware of how to shine all day long. Love Always - Coach J I wrote a few days back about toddlers hugging their favorite stuffed animals. Today as I dropped off my little one at day care there was a younger girl that had her soft blanket from home she would not let go of as she walked around the center. Now that you are older what is your thing of comfort? I think of my teenagers and immediately think it is their phone. They cling to that for sure. For me - is it my computer? Books? I am not sure and will take some objective feedback on that for clarity. What I do know is we should cling to God, to seek knowledge, gain understanding and apply wisdom. We should cling to spending time and attention with our loved ones. Cling to being gentle and firm at the same time. I ask that we enjoy the external pleasures but squeeze and release them. And definitely do not cling to them. Love Always - Coach J When creating a meal their is a recipe you should follow if you want a desired outcome. Part of that is using the proper ingredients. Substituting salt for sugar will give you an extremely different outcome. What is the meal you are preparing? Is it a strong family, a healthy financial future, a closer relationship with your friends? The ingredients/ things you put into your time will alter the outcome. Do you need to add a little more of an unconditional listening ear? Maybe a steady dose of predetermined money set aside for future saving? Proactively planning time for friend? The slightest ingredient will shape the final outcome. Take a look at the outcome you desire and see if you are adding the correct ingredients and measurements of each to prepare for the cooking time. If the ingredients are not correct they will never withstand the heat of life that it takes to cook your meal. Take a close look at what your plan is, take inventory of the ingredients, add the appropriate measurements, be patient during the cook time and earn the meal that you are cooking. No fast food brings any real nutritional value. Love Always - Coach J When is the last time you and your loved one worked on a puzzle together? Maybe your Husband, Wife, Child, Grandchild, or Parent took the time to work through a jigsaw puzzle with you and you never forgot that. Who was the one that wanted to do all the outside pieces first? Who simply looked to match colors? Who set up the picture on the box and worked from clues on each piece to start laying out the general area that piece might end up in? There are so many methods to attack a puzzle and so many different learning and problem solving styles that it is amazing to watch your teammates thoughts and organization when working through placing the pieces where they belong. To create a perfect picture we need to work together, honor the differencing styles and most of all enjoy the ride to completion. The feeling of accomplishment when the last piece is placed is exhilarating and the journey is what makes it all worth it. No matter the pieces your life is in there is a clear picture of the intent and purpose. Work with your loved ones to put it together. Most importantly enjoy your time together. Love Always - Coach J We all have acquaintances, associates, buddies, pals, and friends. How many of you have a brother (or sister) friend? One that you have known for sometime and have been through trials with? Even more so that know your shortcomings and still chose to Love and invest in you. Who are these angels in your life? Where did they come from? What have you done to receive such a blessing? Appreciate them by being there for them, and send them a quick "I love you" message today. Don't hold back the feeling you have for another day - express your gratitude today with no expectation of return. Be free and open to love fully and completely everyday through expression, appreciation and no attachment to outcome. Let me know in the comment section what a brother or sister friend looks like to you. Love Always - Coach J |
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