Love Always - Coach J
No matter what a word means to you, when you use it and another person has an alternate understanding of that word there is a potential for disconnect. Using more words to bridge the gap is one way to gain understanding. It is up to each of you how you will move forward past the emotion the word may have risen. No matter what transpires you cannot ever know how someone will receive the words you express. Take and use care, and be brave enough to have the follow up conversations to gain deeper understanding.
Love Always - Coach J
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Indulge in local fare when you travel. You may see something familiar but it tastes different from what you are accustomed to. Before you pass judgment learn a little about the history of the product, see if there is a local seasoning they are using, and reset your taste buds to simply enjoy the moment. Love Always - Coach J Effort is something we must exert to have any return in life. We must push and grow. There is a difference between effort and struggle. To display effort is to give your best, try your hardest and check in on the results and course correct as needed. Struggle however is more of a head down, push through and just keep going without looking at your progress or outcome type of movement. To struggle is to take on the emotional burden of your results. To be come attached to the pain of failure. In place of that I suggest you simply look at the results as only that - results. You did the best you could with what you knew to that point. The next step is to evaluate and see what you can do differently to achieve a new result. Keep giving your best effort but stop struggling in misery. Let me know your thoughts on these words and how you made the switch from struggling to applying powerful effort. Love Always - Coach J When you set an expectation in your head - or an appointment and it does not happen as you wished there may be a feeling of loss. It is incredible because you are missing something that was never promised, simply an expectation in your head. It is even more difficult when it is something natural such as childbirth and for what ever reason it takes an unexpected course. You miss the appointment you had set. You must come to terms in the present moment and release the expectations of the future you have been so emotionally tied to. Disappointment is the appropriate word but in times like these it doesn't capture the emotion of the perceived loss. Trust in all things to be as they should. Live life to its fullest each day and know you played your hand to the fullest so you can rest easy each night. Love Always - Coach J When we reach a peak in our performance or understanding there is no feeling like it. When we execute below that standard going forward we know we have missed the mark and tend to grade ourselves as less than the desired mark. In the moment we are delivering not only what the receiver needs but on some level what we need as well. Without those moments of less than stellar performance we may never refine ourselves further. Without the fall there is no victory to overcome. The beauty in the win is to overcome the struggle. Even if it is unnoticed by others we build our reserve by acknowledging and getting back after it. Being human and being able to err is one of the best gifts we have ever been given if we use it to grow. Love Always - Coach J It is interesting how many sales "professionals" will make a presentation of what they have to offer and not close the presentation by asking for the business. How many times do we do this in life in general? We talk about things we want or would like to people that could help us achieve our goal but we never directly ask for their assistance. We tell jokes to the guy or girl we like but we never ask for a date. We imply what we'd like to do this weekend to our significant other but we never make a firm stance and ask for their feedback. Fear of an answer outside of what we want can lead to paralysis. What I'll offer to this point is you don't have the additional help, date, or weekend plan as it is. You are not actually losing anything. You are truly losing by failing to ask for what you want, because you never know what they can do to assist or they may even have a referral to someone else that can assist that you never even considered. Ask for what you want in life, ask for the business and you will find success turning in your favor. Love Always - Coach J Have you ever seen something so bad or ugly it made you realize how good you really have it? I can admit I have had experiences where I wish I had been wiser and not put myself in a situation that made me think "What am I doing here? I don't need to be in this environment!" In those moments I was fortunate enough to have a measurement of good that I could reference as the place I'd rather be. If you are in a dark place and do not have a frame of reference of a better place, I tell you it exists, simply look for small clues first. And for those of you in a good place now, don't wait to be tested or witness something less than beautiful to fully grasp and appreciate the good that is in your life now. The good will only multiply. If you have a little, amplify it, if you have a lot amplify it. Focus on the good, and minimize the bad and the ugly. Love Always - Coach J The road I traveled to get here was bumpy at some points. Rocky and treacherous at times. Difficult and seemingly impossible. In those times I just kept my head focused on the next step - not the mountain top. Other times my path was more smooth and easy. I learned that for the most part when I knew what direction I was headed the journey was a little easier, even during the tough times. The road here has left some bruises, some visible, some not. The same can be said for scars and muscles that are developed during the journey. These emotional and physical markers may be lingering a little but I wear them with pride and do not let them influence my decisions today - simply knowing that they all brought me to where I am now. Reflect on your journey and look for the lessons, not for regret. Love Always - Coach J When subatomic particles crash into each other energy is released. When people crash into each other energy is released. Today I had the opportunity to have by vehicle crashed into. It gave me the chance to raise my awareness and be present in that moment. It showed me clearly without a doubt how much I have to be grateful for and that material possessions don't matter in an emergency. What I truly hope is in the dealings with the other person, the police officer, insurance adjusters and all the other people I will come into contact with as a result of this "accident" that I give a great energy to them. Thank you for always showing me the lesson and living through me. Love Always - Coach J |
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