Breathe the fresh air. Sitting on your porch you are enjoying the sweet sent of coffee in the morning or rain in the air in the evening. You are relaxed with life and energy flowing through your open heart. Now hear your neighbor yelling and they are yelling at you. "Your dog dug up my flower bed! What are you going to do about it?!" Let this flow through you just as the scent of the flower. You can address this situation without being or feeling defensive. Reply "I understand that seeing your flowers dig up is troubling, let me come over and see what we can do." Go to the flower bed experience the overturned soil, touch it and devise a plan to remedy the situation - even though your dog has been with relatives for the last week! This takes practice to execute, a lifetime of practice and when you miss the mark simply review and realize where you could have turned the situation for your next experience and move on. In the moment - Relax, Release any personal connection or emotion and Open your heart. What happens next is all about your growth. Live the best life you can no matter what others attempt to throw in your path. Love Always - Coach J
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Read 10 pages a day of any great book. Inspirational, personal development, spiritual, skill or trade - something to help you grow. Even at 5 days a week (remember working hard is about recovery and reflection as well) you will have read anywhere from 8-10 books a year! Imagine the knowledge you will bring to your career, social circle, and personal peace of mind with that amount of growth per year. It all starts with a little daily discipline. Love Always - Coach J There was a time when music was made from a loving soul. There is some evidence of that tradition today but it is not magnified. Heartfelt stories, great melodies, and vocals straight from the soul. You could even hear the pain and joy of the instruments as they were played. The song that took me there today – Little Walter “My Babe”. Love Always – Coach J You always have a choice. When external circumstances are extreme you may only have the option of how you react to them but regardless you have options. Someone wrongs you; you have a choice on how to react. Someone loves you; you have a choice of how to react. Usually before it gets to the face to face manifestation of the feeling you have options early on that will place you in specifics settings or in a specific timing in synch with your choice. Review all of your options and also weigh their consequences. Then move forward in complete confidence. Love Always - Coach J A study conducted at BYU related to goal achievement found that people who said "That's a good idea" had a 10% chance of achieving their goal. Those who said "I'll do it" 25% chance, those who placed a date by which they planned to achieve the goal had a 40% chance of achieving their goal. Those who developed a specific plan had a 50% chance of getting there and 60% if they committed to someone else they would accomplish the goal. But those people who committed to someone else and also committed to share their progress at regular intervals had a 95% chance of reaching their goal! Find an accountability partner, share your goals and keep a schedule of updates. You were built to win. You will succeed! Love Always - Coach J It's nice after a run of sleeping for four to five hours and travelling, and sightseeing to take a day to recoup. Just lay around, read a book, watch some football on TV, and just nap off and on throughout the day. I am an advocate of working hard, pushing through barriers, and maximizing your day. I also know that you need to recharge your battery to be most effective. Here is to scrambled eggs and recliners. Overcast days and no pressure. Love Always - Coach J There have been times as my older children grow we have not been in exact harmony with each other. There have been times where we literally go different paths. This happens in life with friends but when it is family I feel a missing piece of me. Someone said to me today a mother can feel her child's pain when they cry. She associated it with an amputated arm that sh can still feel what the fingers feel. That was beautiful to me. As we grow we all may drift at times but nothing feels more powerful than when we are in synch. Love Always - Coach J Letting your children fail so they can learn the lesson. Letting your employees offer solutions to concerns and implementing them. Putting a little money each week into a saving account. What long term investments are you willing to make? Which ones are you already making. To leave a legacy you need to empower others to carry on when you are not around. Long term goals build momentum slowly but are hard to stop once you get them rolling. Take time and care to build what you want to last. In an instant gratification world do not fall for the trap of the quick fix or lottery mind set. Love Always - Coach J I have been told that I am a special wonderful person on many occasions. While I appreciate that I know that I am no more unique than the next person. Praise is awesome but if you want to know the secret - here it is. I simply recognize the beauty around me more often than the average person. Second I call it out by name and smile at it. I introduce myself and make sure I truly capture that moment in my heart. Then I let it go - forget all about it and move to the next amazing experience. When you savor each breath of life, the sky is brighter, you can see trees breathing and you'll meet the most amazing people - right in front of your face. Behold the beauty that is your life and the ugly things will fade away into the background. Once you start to reflect the beauty around you people will think you are the source of the light when you are simply a reflection. Love Always - Coach J When there is dysfunction or disharmony in your relationships - personal or professional finding the root cause of the pain is important. You may have a belief from your perspective and operate, or act a type of way based on your viewpoint. However you may be off base in your judgment if you do not take the time to openly discuss with the other party the root cause from their perspective. You may be surprised on what they see the issue as. They may be surprised to find where you are coming from. Until you have common ground you cannot move forward lockstep. Dig up those roots so you can have strong relationships. Love Always - Coach J |
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