Love Always - Coach J
When you are disconnected from something you are not aware of its current state. If you are disconnected you can make assumptions about its progress but you cannot be sure. When you are disconnected from a person it can appear that you may not care for their current or future state, when simply you have no current information to go on. When you attempt to connect and cannot connect what is next? My perspective is to remain consistent and available. If you are steady and consistent, remain available, and let your intentions be known of having a desire to connect there is not much more you can do. This way you know you have done everything you can and when the other party wants to connect, they can see you are in the same place and welcome the connection. Too many times a lack of connection can be perceived as a lack of caring. A break in an electrical wire will cause the current to stop at a the break but electricity is still electricity and love is still love, just sometimes it is disconnected. If you have a connection you want to want to repair simply do your part and let the rest happen.
Love Always - Coach J
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A crucible is a melting pot where metals are forged. It is also used as a term for an extreme test. In the test we find our strength that we work for in training. Without the test we never really know how strong we really are. In being tested and demonstrating our strength or knowledge the lesson is internalized into a deeper understanding than we had prior to the test. It becomes part of us and not just a philosophical point of view. We can study and train all we want, but if we never get out into the world and test our studies we will be weak in the face of adversity. Take your lumps, test your theory and use the power of the crucible to your advantage. Love Always - Coach J when you eat are you breaking a fast? A period without food/nourishment? Not just eating to eat. Consuming to consume, rather eating because it is time to refuel. Consuming because you have digested the previous lesson and are now ready for more. Take time to let the food sink in, savor it and even push a little past the want into the need to refuel so you partake of the new food or information with enthusiastic hunger. Take your time, chew slowly, savor and digest when you break fast. Love Always - Coach J Many times I have used the phrase "transformation" when speaking to personal development but a recent insight has me considering the definition I will choose to represent. The transform is to change a shape from what it was to something new - at least that is the definition on a cellular level. Commonly it is used to state a dramatic change. I will use the change to something new definition to express my counter of discovery as being preferable. Of the things I have learned that have enlightened me most I had to consider that the lessons returned me to my essence - or Dis Covered (uncovered) something that was already within. I simply became aware of it and empowered it. I may have acted, or shown a dramatic change that others can casually call transformation, but the reality for me was I discovered information that was always present and chose to act on it. Consider this, but no matter what we call it, keep growing and aligning with Love. Love Always - Coach J When we are unclear about someone's position I have learned that by asking questions you can get a better feel for where they are coming from. With the definition of confrontation being a hostile or argumentative disagreement I do not endorse that, however I do endorse speaking up when something feels out of synch. In that case you do need to confront it, raise, it, call it out. This does not mean it needs to happen in an argumentative fashion. You can begin by calling it out as you see it, then ask the other party what drove them to their decision and seek understanding. Do not be passive, do not be aggressive, be interested and listen with no investment in your position. See what you can learn and what you can clarify to overcome any potential conflict that could result from confrontation. Love Always - Coach J A treadmill is a piece of exercise equipment that allows you to run in place. It takes away the elements and scenery that you would experience if you ran outdoors on a path or trail. It also takes away the bumps and dips, the rocks and the edges that you have to be aware of when you run outdoors. You work up a sweat you track distance and you can feel accomplished. I ask you to consider if your daily work habits reflect that of a treadmill or a trail run. Do you sweat and make a lot of movement without changing your scenery? Do you have a "safe" path without detours and rough edges? To achieve the full experience of life I suggest you get out on the edge a little and be willing to risk defeat so you have a chance to play for the victory. Are you doing what you love in your career? If so are you pushing it to the next level of experience? Stop running in place. Make the miles you have tracked count. Get in the game. Love Always - Coach J When you sit in silence what do you hear? What is the internal song sound like? Is it thrashing and angry telling you what to fear? Is it harmonious and beautiful whispering to you of Faith? Is it inspirational and motivational causing you to seek transformation? You are the DJ and the trackmaster. You choose what plays in your head. Make sure you assist your playlist by the things you download. It will be more difficult to tune into a peaceful or motivational station in your head if you listen to certain types of talk radio and watch CNN or Fox News while reading the newspaper. Consider what you want to hear in your moment of silence, and give it plenty of nourishment throughout the day. Love Always - Coach J In this fast paced society plan time to listen to songs from your youth. Watch a movie you watched as a child. Teach your friends or children a game you played when you were young. Eat figs right off of the fig tree or crabapples. Things that take you back to your youth. Get that good energy of your youth back. Stay young, and take memory lane with you. Love Always - Coach J Moonlit walks through the garden. The natural light of the moon reflecting on a beautiful arrangement of flowers, trees, shrubs, waterfalls, birdhouses, and small animals in their natural environment. Walking at a slow pace and stopping to notice details that would have been misses without spending quality time from one perspective then moving just a few feet away and looking again with new eyes, noticing new treasures. The moonlit garden was a reminder for me to walk in the same way in each moment of my life. Love Always - Coach J |
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