Love Always - Coach J
When we take the time to give or share an insight what we have really done is some internal work and reflection. There is information in our database that we either compared, aligned, or accessed to share an insight. This is happening internally and is connected with our accumulated knowledge. Taking time to share your perspective or insight is a way of contributing and appreciating the company you surround yourself with. Do the self work. Share with others. Grow and develop.
Love Always - Coach J
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When you are in a situation and you are not sure what to do - stretch! I mean push yourself a little out of your comfort zone and find answers in places you may have never thought to look. Change your normal perspective and see things differently. You may get results you never could have accomplished otherwise. Love Always - Coach J When working towards a large goal the most effective way to get there is to take small actionable steps. The change however can be large and dramatic. There is no need to think "small". Imagine your outcome as you wish it to be and take no shorts. If someone you are working with is stuck on a detail or looking for perfection before moving forward simply bring them into your vision of the big picture. Help them see where their work fits in. Do not wait to be perfect to act. Move on your passion today and share your big picture with your team. Love Always - Coach J If you saw a deaf person headed for imminent disaster by walking into speeding traffic wouldn't you help them? So why do so many of us with perfectly fine ears refuse to listen to feedback that can help us course correct? Is it pride, ego, emotions that get in the way? Next time you feel unwilling or not wanting to listen to others input imagine yourself walking right off a cliff because you couldn't hear someone else yelling for you to stop. Just because you listen does not mean you need to take the advice or even agree. You are simply giving yourself the maximized opportunity to collect as much information as possible. Love Always - Coach J Emotions affect everyone around you as well as yourself. Today I am reflecting on the destructive emotion of anger. We can all be upset or unsettled but when that feeling turns to anger we know a nerve has been struck. As a leader it is not a place you want to operate from. Using anger to drive results wears your team down, it also wears you down. Learn to identify what you are feeling when something moves you from upset to angry. Now that you are aware you are there you can label it and begin to make the corrective thought or behavior to take control back of your state. We do not want to be led by anger, from our leaders, to our peers, to ourselves. Love Always - Coach J My sister celebrated a birthday a couple days ago and I was reflecting on how cool our childhood was growing up together. As a little brother I remember annoying her and driving her crazy. Running in her room when her friends would visit and being a complete maniac to get attention. I also recall when I couldn't have been more than 6 years old having her invite me to her room and she would read me stories of adventure and intrigue until I dozed off. I watched her grow into an extremely strong and resilient woman full of love and life. The gratitude and appreciation I have for my big sis can never be captured with words, yet I felt compelled to take a moment to share some of my reflections to encourage you to reflect on someone in your life that is not only awesome in all they do, but also always made you feel priceless. That's what my sister does for me. Love Always - Coach J Yesterday I wrote about the outer and inner critic. Today let's look at a behavior that can fuel that critic. I believe that life is all about results. The result of the way we work, the way we love, the way we communicate. This approach has us consider what we put into our actions to gain the results. The danger when you only focus on results is a results at any cost mentality. That is ultimately unhealthy and a short term approach to sustaining your desired results. Take care in each relationship you cultivate in your journey to the desired result. Enjoy the journey, meet the people and processes fully. Understand them and respect the potential as well as the result. I am not suggesting you settle for something less than what you have set out to achieve. You are responsible to make adjustments and refine your approach until you have the desired outcome. I am simply sharing that steamrolling or shortcutting is never a long term solution. Love Always - Coach J Have you ever worked for someone that was actively and overly critical of your efforts and performance? Were you able or willing to keep giving that boss your best? How about a relationship where your partner points out every mistake you have? Were you guarded in what you shared and restrained in your expression? We can clearly see how these external "judges" can affect our performance. Once you realized their ways I hope you were able to adapt and eventually distance yourself from that relationship. However how many times are overly critical of ourselves? What would your life be like if you loved yourself even while acknowledging your missteps? What could you accomplish? What incredible feats would you reach if you stepped back and let yourself be you? Avoid the over critical in all walks of life. It drains energy and you have much better things to do with you time and energy than to judge and be judged. Love Always - Coach J Here we have a picture of man's best friend. It is great to be all forgiving and be an excellent friend. However as humans we have the choice to make sure we speak up when something is out of line. We can be the best friend sometimes by telling the truth or correcting a loved one when they are off target. Being a good friend and being loyal also encompass the tough times when we need to work through ugly truths with someone. Be a great friend and help others work through their blind spots. Love Always - Coach J |
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